vpmaster2004 Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 I have decided that within the next 2 and a half years, I'm moving out of my grandma & grandpa's house. I'm 30,and I think it's about high time I got out of my grandma & grandpa's house, and, as much as possible, take ownership of my own life. I've lived with them for nearly 21 years, and frankly, I don't really think I'm happy with the way my grandma has changed. She hasn't been the person I used to remember her as. For example, it seems like each time she finds out that I've made a mistake, she has to be critical about it, and point it out to me. I've even told her that I don't like the way she's changed. She has to accept this fact. I know she's changed because of my grandpa's condition. He has Dementia, and Alzheimer's. I used to hang out with my grandpa a LOT, but now, because of his condition, I feel embarrassed if he's anywhere near where I am when I go somewhere. I do love my grandparents, but I find the way they are, right now, to be unacceptable, and I know I can't control the way they are. A lot of people in the chat room already know that I'm planning on moving out, and I want to thank them for supporting my decision to do so. Osprey has been helping me, and he deserves very special thanks from me for helping me in starting the process. Some of you already know where I plan on living. For those of you who don't, here's the details: http://www.apartmentfinder.com/Illinois/Champaign-Apartments/University-Village-At-Champaign-Apartments Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vpmaster2004 Posted July 28, 2013 Author Share Posted July 28, 2013 By the way, I forgot to mention that if the meaning of Life is (in my view, supposedly) "The pursuit of happiness", then why am I still living with my grandma & grandpa? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightpin Posted July 29, 2013 Share Posted July 29, 2013 Sounds like you need to grow up, stop being ingrateful, and get your life together man. For example, it seems like each time she finds out that I've made a mistake, she has to be critical about it, and point it out to me. I've even told her that I don't like the way she's changed. She has to accept this fact. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vpmaster2004 Posted July 29, 2013 Author Share Posted July 29, 2013 Lightpin, that was very harsh of you to be so critical towards me. I can tell you right now that I am disabled. I have Williams Syndrome. I personally do not like being negatively criticized by my grandma, nor do I like being negatively criticized by anyone else in my family. I have TRIED, time & time again to accept myself for what I am to my grandma. I think she has to understand that it's time for me to move on, and take control of my own life. If I am not happy being with her & my grandpa, then I have legal right to move out and permanently disown them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Content Provider DeeGor Posted July 29, 2013 Content Provider Share Posted July 29, 2013 Unfortunately, this kind of stuff comes up when you open up on the Internet. It's best to keep your private life amongst your friends and skip posting to forums, as people love tear each other down. People tend to be real jerks when cloaked with the veil of annonimity. In regards to your post. It's scary moving out on your own at first, and probably even scarier when you have a disability like that, but you will find your way, and things will all come together. Just make sure you have a good plan before you leave. The last thing you want is to have to go back. Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Content Provider Itchigo Posted July 29, 2013 Content Provider Share Posted July 29, 2013 Nate, move out if you must, but don't write them out of your life completely. With your grandpa's condition it's only normal to expect that it's not easy on your grandma. But they won't be around forever either, so it's good that you get your feet wet on your own. FIRST you need a job, before anything happens. Ultimately, you'll need a car too. This is something you need to prepare for and not do on a whim. I guess what I'm saying is: Have a plan Be prepared DON'T burn your bridges Execute your plan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Content Provider oooPLAYER1ooo Posted July 30, 2013 Content Provider Share Posted July 30, 2013 i agree with itchy Nate, good luck on whatever you choose Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faralos Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 try not to turn your back on relatives I was at odds with my dad for decades (it took my divorce in '03 for us to 'make up') and finally I got to like him for about 6 years before he was diagnosed with cancer and we lost him in '09 due to Brain cancer but we didn't speak for about 30 years of my adult life and I feel we missed out on so much I know it feels at times like an impossible task but again they are your grandparents and if you ignore them now they may not be around when you really want to talk with them good luck with your moving and all... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bob5453 Posted July 31, 2013 Share Posted July 31, 2013 Hi Natemeister! Get a moped. Move in with Rascal. Problem solved. Case closed. Thumbs up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Content Provider oooPLAYER1ooo Posted July 31, 2013 Content Provider Share Posted July 31, 2013 lol bob you forgot he would also need greesed up hair and a leather jacket to ride with rascal's bad ass moped gang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Content Provider Itchigo Posted August 1, 2013 Content Provider Share Posted August 1, 2013 Get on your bad motorscooter and ride........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faralos Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 ride like the wind!! all you hecks angels!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maxxsinner Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 Good luck Nate. Hope it all works out for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Content Provider Rascal Posted August 14, 2013 Content Provider Share Posted August 14, 2013 Taking over the world at 25 mph! If you don't like it, then stay off the sidewalk! Anytime Nate wants to join up in my gang, he's more than welcome. First stop is Ohio where we chase Bob through the cornfields, chucking cobs. Good luck to ya Nate! Don't be too hard on your grandma, she's dealing with a lot too. Here I am letting the neighbors know who rules this town! YOU BETTER HIDE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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